If people knew what marriage was like, no one would get married. If they knew what it could be, no one would get divorced.
But no one knows what it’s like until they’re in it. It’s like parenting. How many times have you gotten parenting advice from someone with either no children or with one perfect child? But once you’re in it…up to your neck in real life…that is when you know what it’s like.
Any of us who are honest will admit that we’ve been there before: That moment in marriage where you are convinced that this person you’ve decided to spend your life with will never understand you…and probably doesn’t want to.
My ability to fight is impressive. It was never a skill that I meant to develop. But I did. In my more uninhibited days, when I let go of my restraints in an argument, I could be terribly condescending. I’d say what needed to be said and do what needed to be done to end the argument. To win. If I’m not careful, and if I ignore the lessons that life and maturity have given me, I can go back to that same venomous tactic pretty easily.